Spectrummy Mummy

Asperger's, Allergies, and Adventures Abroad

About Spectrummy Mummy

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Hello and welcome to our little corner of the internet.  I’m very pleased to meet you.  You can call me Spectrummy Mummy, your guide to our not-so-average family and all things spectrummy.  I’m originally from England, American by marriage, and currently living in South Africa, by way of a couple of other countries.  Honestly though, it doesn’t matter where we’re living, we know for sure that the journey is more important than the destination.

You see, Spectrummy Daddy is my US Diplomat husband who is at least halfway responsible for our family.  He likes Batman almost as much as he likes us.  Probably more on some days.  Sometimes I let him write here too, but not very often, because I’d get attention-starved trying to compete with him as well as our children.

Pudding is the real star of the show.  She is our 7 year-old Aspie princess, who was born in Luxembourg and diagnosed a few months before she turned 3.  Along with Asperger’s Syndrome (which is now simply Autistic Disorder), she is also diagnosed with ADHD, a sleep disorder, and Developmental Coordination Disorder, because a simple label like “girl” wouldn’t come close to describing how awesome she is.  Pudding likes the colour pink, Hello Kitty and stripping down to a costume in the hopes you’ll take her swimming.

Cubby is her baby brother.  We call him nearlytypical, because we haven’t heard any better suggestions.  He is incredibly talkative, and likes as many boy things as his sister can’t stand.  Now 5, he is our little man- the perfect foil to his big sister.  He is smart and sensitive, and makes us laugh, so we make sure we pack him whenever we move.

I once wrote for Hopeful Parents, at this blog whenever have the time, and here is a list of other places my work has been published.  You can also find the latest from Pudding and Cubby on Facebook and you’ll find me getting carried away with #youmightbeanautismparentif on Twitter.

Please feel free to leave comments (see the comment page for suggestions) and if you need to contact me directly, you can do so at spectrummymummy [@] gmail [.] com without all the silly parentheses and spaces.  Feel free to send out my link to anyone you think might like to read it.

I think it is pretty obvious, but a necessary disclaimer that while the husband is an employee of the State Department,  my views are my own, and do not represent those of the United States Government or any agency.  Probably no other government agrees with me either, which I’m okay with too.

Thank you for stopping by, and I hope you like what you read.

Written by Spectrummy Mummy

July 17, 2010 at 12:33 am

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  1. I went to high school with your husband and found your blog through him. I am currently a teacher of preschool children with special needs and I am often the first person parents come in contact with when they have found out that their child may have a disability. I have enjoyed getting to read a parents point of view and you write beautifully! Thank you so much for being willing to share so openly. If you ever want to talk to someone who knows what IEP, OT, SLP, etc. mean, feel free to contact me.

    Stacy

    July 29, 2010 at 9:52 am

    • Thank you Stacy! We’ve seen firsthand the difference a good teacher can make to a child’s life. I love that you are so willing to see our perspective- that communication is half the battle in getting what the child needs.

      spectrummymummy

      July 29, 2010 at 1:32 pm

  2. We just returned from living overseas (as Diplomats too and yes you are right not as exciting as it sounds) and I have a 10 year old Aspie boy. Living overseas was not easy… getting him the help he needed was hard, especially in English… but it was possible. I hope to go back again overseas but for now we are happy where we are … at least until High School comes around. LOL Glad I found your blog online and I look forward to reading more.

    Sharon

    March 28, 2011 at 10:09 pm

    • I’m going to go and subscribe to your now- I have a feeling I can learn a lot from you! :-)

      Spectrummy Mummy

      March 29, 2011 at 1:09 pm

  3. I have a dilemma that I am hoping you or other readers can help with:
    My husband works for an international company and his boss is offering a two year overseas assignment starting either this year 2011 and going to 2013 or starting in 2012 and going to 2014.
    Now the dilemma……

    I have a 16 year old son with asperger’s who is doing well in school and has a girlfriend he really likes (but we know how fickle teenagers can be, so that may change at any time), and a group of about 3 friends whom he sees in school but not out of school. I think he would get into a regular international school and do fine academically (he does not have any accomadations at this point) but will struggle with the fitting in and making friends part. His school here already said they would count it as an exchange program so he could graduate here if he wanted to – part of this issue is his US school is not an IB program and international schools usually are but that requires two years and he only has one year left.

    I have a daughter who is about to start her first year of highschool. She is not on the spectrum at all and in fact does very well socially and is very adventurous and excited about moving overseas.

    If we move now we take my son away from his hard won group of friends. If we move a year from now it means my daughter potentially has her academics messed up as she will do one year here, two abroad, and her senior year back in the US.
    On top of this I have the bug to travel and see the world but I recognize I have to put the kids first.

    Any advise?

    victoria

    June 15, 2011 at 3:12 pm

    • Hi Victoria,

      We’ll see if anyone else can offer advice on this one. Obviously I’m not familiar with teenagers, and I’d hate to counsel yo one way or the other. All kids on the spectrum are different, and differ in the way they’d handle this kind of lifestyle.

      It is also different because I don’t know what kind of educational/therapeutic supports you would have in place. I’d probably start by looking into those in the place you’d be moving to.

      It sounds like this isn’t a mandatory move, so if you don’t feel it is the right time for your family, you can decline. There is also the possibility of boarding schools, which have worked really well as an option for some special needs kids as they got older. It isn’t an easy clear cut decision- much depends on your child and how you think they could handle it.

      Best of luck with the decision!

      Spectrummy Mummy

      June 16, 2011 at 5:37 am

  4. Hello, I really wish I knew what Victoria and her family decided! I’m the proud mom of a 14 yr old son with Asp. Our family is considering a move overseas as well and I would really appreciate the opportunity to chat with other families who’ve done this.

    I realize she posted nearly a year ago but maybe someone else can chime in.

    L-

    Lainie

    March 13, 2012 at 6:16 am

  5. L- The internet works in wonderful (and mysterious, to me) ways! and I was notified of your post. We did decide to move and are now living in Shanghai, China with two of my children, including my Aspie son. My oldest is in University in the US. I would be happy to chat. Drop by my blog at Ni Hao Shanghai and you can see a little about my kids. For more info or specific questions send me an email at tvglgw@yahoo.com. Good luck with your decision. As spectrummymummy says it is all so individual, but doing the research ahead of time can make a huge difference.
    T

    tvglgw

    March 13, 2012 at 12:24 pm

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