I wasn’t expecting a friend
A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself
– Jim Morrison
Something wonderful has happened, something I wasn’t looking for, something I wasn’t sure Pudding was ready for: a new friend. Back when I wrote about their impending play date, I had no expectation that this would happen. I’m often told by adults (even some of you) how adorable Pudding is. Grown-ups appreciate the struggles, admire the quirkiness, and accept the differences. Appreciation, admiration and acceptance are wonderful traits, which are very seldom found in young children. I wasn’t expecting much from the play date. I wasn’t expecting Pudding to want to see E again, and I wasn’t expecting E to want to see Pudding again. I wasn’t expecting there to be more play dates in parks, playgrounds, indoor play areas, coffee shops; each time the friendship between the two girls getting stronger.
Pudding is who she is. At this point in her life, she hasn’t learned to conform to what people want her to be. If you don’t like it, she just doesn’t care. There are no airs and graces, she is herself. It is so liberating to be 3. So E likes Pudding for herself, and I can’t tell you how happy that makes me. They laugh, hug, hold hands, dance around, play! She refused to play with another child because her friend Pudding was due to arrive. She wanted to make a bracelet for Pudding. She will move from her chair to sit right next to Pudding. She is a friend.
Pudding isn’t the only lucky one though. I got a new friend too. E’s mother and I go on girl’s nights out. She is going to take Cubby so I can get a real break once a week, so I can take care of myself. She is someone I can talk to, or Facebook with, or email even though we just met up that day. She is a friend. And I admire, accept and appreciate that friendship, just as much as I do that of her little girl.
I want to thank all my friends, new and old, online and real life, the ones who understand and the ones who try to, the ones I’ve worked with and the ones I’ve shirked with, the ones who make me laugh and the ones who makes me think, those who are close and far away, the ones I’m related to, and my best friend, the one I married. You mean so much to me. Your packages of chocolate, your insightful comments, your jokes, your emails, your company are what make my days so special. I wasn’t expecting you either, but I’m so glad you’re here.