Spectrummy Mummy

Asperger's, Allergies, and Adventures Abroad

Crime and Punishment

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So you may remember that she made a big mess, and we decided to make a meaningful punishment of no dresses or nightgowns until the end of the week.  Amazingly, we made it to the end of the week.  Although she wasn’t happy the first night, she didn’t make too much of a fuss putting on her pyjamas.  She knew she was in trouble already, so wisely went for the path of least resistance.  It was the following morning I expected to be trouble.  I’d taken the liberty of hiding all her dresses, as she no longer consults me as to what is appropriate attire.  She is the fashionista, after all.  I think she remembered the punishment, because she didn’t even come to me to demand the return of her “pretty dresses.”

I went into her room to check, and found her wearing her underwear and a top.  I found the matching shorts from the drawer.

Me: Pudding, here are your shorts that match your top.

Pudding: It’s not a top!

Me: No?  So what it is it that you’re wearing?

Pudding: It’s a dress.

Oh, touché my girl.  She put the shorts on regardless, and clothing-wise, the rest of the week passed without incident.  It relieved some of my concerns about flexibility.  It did nothing, alas, to curb her self-directed mess-making.  Any time she was left alone, she was right back to her ways.  Wardrobe intervention does not make for an effective punishment, unfortunately.

And we’re back to scratching our heads as to how to discipline such a free spirit.

Written by Spectrummy Mummy

September 6, 2010 at 8:12 am

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  1. Hmmm, good luck with that!
    I understand your frustration. We are yet to find a punishment that actually works for our 10 yr old. She has had EVERYTHING that we can think of taken off her and she’s still seems unaffected!


    September 6, 2010 at 9:44 pm

  2. I am sorry! I can’t help but laugh at the ingenuity! “it’s a dress” !! That is priceless.

    As for the mess making, it is indeed very hard to stop this kind of thing – being 3 on top of all the irresistible sensory input and output makes for a heady mix (for her) and endless frustration (for you) (I hope I got that right!)

    Like Fiona, we have had little success with the removal of enjoyable items and so on. I found while Perky was younger that redirection was my only weapon. Unfortunately this is very time consuming and hard to maintain for the longer haul. For when you are needing the periods where Pudding is at a loose end (such as when you prepare dinner) is there any way to structure a sensory experience? Our early intervention teacher suggested a plastic tub big enough for Perky to sit in with rice to play with in there. This is one of his sensory delights and is very calming – he like it with socks off. Plus, the dried rice is easy to vacuum up if it ends up out of the tub. This kind of thing is all I can suggest for such a young person, I am sure other readers of your blog have suggestions or ideas, too!


    September 7, 2010 at 4:26 am

  3. I know, she gets so angry about losing her possessions, but it doesn’t make her pause to think about what she is doing. We do give her LOTS of sensory input too, which she loves, but never seems to be enough. I think I just (at this point) have to keep an eye on her at all times. Definitely easier now she is back in school, of course. Still, if anyone can think of anything that might work, I’m all ears!


    September 7, 2010 at 9:42 am

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