Spectrummy Mummy

Asperger's, Allergies, and Adventures Abroad

Thoughtful Thursday

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When a friend first suggested I gave Wordless Wednesday a try I wasn’t entirely sure.  I mean, I like writing.  Still, there was something about it that appealed to me, and on Saturday while we were attending a “Fall Festival” (ridiculous to me as the weather has just now cooled down to London summer, it really does not feel like Autumn), I snapped the picture of Pudding touching the tree.  I was hoping to illustrate, at the time, that while all around kids were playing on the playground, bouncing on the inflatables, eating the yummy food, riding the train and the ponies, Pudding felt compelled to do this.  She needed a fix.  Of course, Pudding did all the other stuff too, she was in her element and not at all overwhelmed by the crowds, noises, sights and smells.  She is a sensory-seeker, even a place like Disneyworld has “just-right” stimulation for her.  Touching the tree was the one tiny thing that set her apart that day.

So I was a little disappointed when I got home and realized the picture looked like a girl playing hide-and-seek.  Not that there is anything wrong with that, it just didn’t illustrate what was going on sufficiently, and I felt I had to use words to make my point.  For about the millionth time, I was thankful that I do have the ability to express myself.  I can’t even imagine how frustrating it would be to struggle with something so essential.

I put up my photo, with my caption, and trotted around the internet looking at other people’s WW images, and leaving comments where I felt I needed to.  It was fascinating!  Literally a snapshot into their lives, seeing what makes them tick.  It is a great way to understand somebody who is taking a different journey.  I saw some great images on my travels: skilled photography and candid family moments, the soulful eyes of a dog whose people are out of sight.  And then I found a page that I just have to share with you.  I just love the joyful expression on her face, and I sat for a while marveling at all the different ways nature expresses beauty.  Then I read these words on the site:

“In India any disability is considered as a CURSE.
I want to let the whole world know ‘What a Blessing my child is’. “

Those words have really stayed with me.  Although I’m not a religious person, I feel that my children are meant to be just as they are, and I am meant to be their mother.  I feel blessed to have them.  I have some trepidation of how Pudding’s differences might be viewed in different parts of the world.  We still (sigh!) don’t know where we’ll live next, but I hope wherever we go, my children will always know that they are a blessing to me.  Indeed, to view your child as anything but a blessing is the true curse.  Little Navya and her wonderful parents definitely brightened my Wordless Wednesday.

Coming back to my post, I was struck by a particular comment.  Will had written:

“At first I though “hide and seek, but the truth is even better.”

The truth is even better!  This was what I got out of Wordless Wednesday.  Sometimes we have to look beyond disabilities, and see the true wonder of a person.  And for others like Pudding with no physical signs of disability, we have to remember that what you see is not what you get.  It really is about taking the blinkers of and seeing the real human, and not how we expect a person to be.  When we need to look a little closer, Wordless Wednesday is a great way to do just that.

5 Minutes for Special NeedsA little late in the day, I found that there is a version of WW that is especially for the special needs community.  The link to Special Exposure is above, as well as on yesterday’s post for those interested.  I urge those interested to check them out for themselves, there are some great images from yesterday.

Thank you all for your lovely comments yesterday.  I think I’ll do it again.  A Wordless Wednesday leads straight to a Thoughtful Thursday!

Written by Spectrummy Mummy

September 16, 2010 at 11:58 am

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  1. What a lovely post. And the page you linked to was amazing too! 🙂

    Well, done.


    September 16, 2010 at 1:03 pm

  2. 🙂 Such a lovely post. Thank you for the wonderful link, too.


    September 16, 2010 at 5:20 pm

  3. beautifully written as always.
    A friend of mine in my support group said something so interesting. When we were all going around introducing ourselves and saying what special needs our kids had, she said that it took her a minute to think what they all had because she just sees “them” now, not their special needs. Goes right to what you said about seeing the true wonder of a person. truly beautiful.


    September 16, 2010 at 9:49 pm

  4. Thanks for your comments ladies. I loved that site too- such an inspiration to go against that kind of negativity. I know what you mean about just seeing “them”. One of my best friends is smart, funny, kind, and has been in a wheelchair since early childhood. When we were out together in our teens, it used to drive me crazy the amount of people who would address me instead of her in conversation, it was such a sharp reminder of how ignorant people can be. I wish people would look a little closer- they have no idea what they’re missing out on! Hope today goes well. Thinking of you.


    September 17, 2010 at 8:56 am

  5. It’s Friday, and that means that the Weekly State Department Blog Roundup is up – and you’re on it! 

    Here is the link:


    If I quoted your text or used your photo(s) and you would rather I had not, please let me know. Please also be sure to check the link(s) that I put up to you, in order to verify that they work properly. If you would rather that I had not referenced you please also contact me. Thanks! 


    September 17, 2010 at 5:22 pm

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