Spectrummy Mummy

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Taking a break

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Today I’m taking another break from the essential.  I did it yesterday, and I’m doing it again today.  Yesterday Pudding didn’t go to her weekly speech therapy session.  Over the weekend she’d had a nasty allergic reaction, and then another reaction to the Benadryl.  She’d had a bad night and though I sent her to her half-day of school, I called in sick to the therapy session.  I think it was the right move, by afternoon she was fading fast.  She was content while drawing on her Aquadoodle mat, but anything else was beyond her.  Her body was out of sorts, and she needed the day off.

In less than an hour I’m supposed to be at a class with Cubby.  It is a toddler group through the local park and community recreation service that we’ve attended twice so far.  It is great in theory: developmentally appropriate play with his peers.  It is exactly what he needs.  The problem is that is starts at 11, and Cubby is ready for a nap by 10.30.  Today he went down for a nap at 9.30, last night was another bad night.  I can, and have kept him awake for the duration of it.  I’ve watched him refuse to follow the play of the leader, refuse to interact with the other children, and throw a temper tantrum when he couldn’t do what he wanted.  I’ve watched that every week, and I know I’ll watch it every other week until we stop going.  I suspect, though I don’t know for sure, that he would do a lot better if this class took place at 9 or 10.  Normally I make him go anyway, because he needs to spend time with typically developing kids.  Normally I make him go anyway because paying for this for him means that we can’t afford the adapted gymnastics class for his sister.  I weighed up both of their needs, and put him first for once.  Normally, I don’t want to admit that I made a mistake, so I make us go anyway.  And all the other mothers tell me he’ll get better, and he’ll grow out of it, and normally I just nod and smile weakly.

Normally.  You see, Pudding and Cubby having bad nights is pretty normal around these parts.  We still do what needs to be done, go to therapy, go to playgroups.  This week though, we need a break.  Tomorrow we have Cubby’s full evaluation by Early Intervention.  This week Spectrummy Daddy has to go to Afghanistan for a few days.  This week Grandma is coming to visit.  Soon, but probably not this week, we’ll hear about where we might spend the next 2 or 3 years of our lives.  All of these things are throwing our routine out of sync, all of these things need to be prepared for in different ways.  This week is no normal one, even for us, so I’m cutting everyone some slack.  Most of all myself.  Pudding won’t stop speaking because she misses a session of speech therapy.  Cubby won’t become more autistic because he isn’t in a room with other toddlers.  I’m taking control of what I can, and taking a break.

I’ve had a couple of emails lately from readers who are new to this.  Who are feeling overwhelmed by all they have to do, all they will have to do.  I get it.  I’ve been there.  Occasionally I’m still there.  I’d love to say that feeling goes away, and perhaps one day it will.  I don’t know for sure though.  So I respond to them what I tell myself too: give yourself a break.  “Normal” service will resume in good time.  You can do this, just give yourself a break.

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Written by Spectrummy Mummy

October 5, 2010 at 10:33 am

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  1. :::Hugs:::

    I will be thinking of you tomorrow. We will be going through day one of the full EI Evaluation tomorrow too. I am glad you took a break. Sometimes we need that.

    autismisnot

    October 5, 2010 at 10:57 am

  2. I definitely know the need to take a break, and I’m so glad you are giving yourself one. It sounds like you’ve got a lot of stuff going on and a lot of questions that will be answered. Thinking of you.

    therocchronicles

    October 5, 2010 at 12:37 pm

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  4. Three cheers for taking a break and knowing when to take a break. These are skills some people don’t actually have!
    I, too, am thinking of you. I am already steeling myself for Pinky’s series of evaluations, and they don’t start until November!

    DQ

    October 5, 2010 at 5:14 pm

  5. So glad to hear that you are taking a break… time to put on your oxygen mask first!! Thinking of you for tomorrow…

    dawn

    October 5, 2010 at 10:38 pm


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