Spectrummy Mummy

Asperger's, Allergies, and Adventures Abroad

Topped Up

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On Wednesday night Pudding and Cubby got to spend time with our friend Courtney.  Although she’d met Pudding as an infant when we visited London, Courtney remarked that she felt a little


Courtney getting a hug from The Pudding!


star-struck at meeting our little blog celebrities!  The kids enjoyed meeting her t0o, despite the chaos of a play-date, the whole thing went pretty well.


My Energizer Bunny can charge up the flattest of souls


I’m just back from a visit to the coffee shop with Pudding.  With Grandma in town, I could put Cubby to sleep, then steal out, just the two of us.  Well, just the three of us, as Upsy-Daisy was in tow, of course.  Pudding was sent home sick from school (just a cold) yesterday, so I kept her home today too.  I actually don’t remember the last time we spent time together just the two of us, and I had forgotten just how much pleasure I get from her company when it is just the two of us.  Just half an hour in her effervescent company has topped us back up- it is like a relationship recharge.

Tonight I get to do the same thing with Spectrummy Daddy.  It is only our fourth date this year, and our third alone together.  I’m a little run down with a cold and bad allergies, but I don’t intend to miss out on tonight.  We also need to keep the charge topped up before we drain out.

I made time for someone else this week too.  Someone who often gets overlooked in the chaos of daily life- me.  This morning I had my first physical exam in over 5 years.  I hadn’t seen a GP since before I was married, and still living in England.  Way too long.  I’ve had some tests for some niggling physical problems that I’ve been ignoring, because I was too busy, or couldn’t make an appointment with the children around.  I know I’m not the only mother or caregiver to neglect myself in this way.  There is no way I’d ignore such symptoms in the rest of the family, and I need to remember that I’m a vital part of this machine.  If I get too run down, this whole thing won’t work.  Proper maintenance is most definitely in order, both physically and emotionally.

I’ve been thinking a lot this week about girls, and the example we set to them.  My bloggy friend Fi is facing the challenges of raising a spectrummy girl a few years down the line.  I think it is never too early to build up self-esteem.  As soon as Pudding is developmentally ready for it, we’d like her to receive instruction in a martial art.  I think it will be a great way for her to learn about her body being strong, powerful, and healthy.  We really need to get away from this fat/thin body image negativity.  Why are girls (and women) still doing this to one another?  Why are they starting even younger?  We’re doing something to give our daughters the wrong idea.  I need to remember that Pudding is always watching, and learning from me whether I realize it or not.  I need to take care of myself, and let her know that I do that because I’m worth taking care of.  I’m important, just as she is.  When you really appreciate who you are, you don’t need to drain the value of others to feel better.  Taking care of yourself is for the good of everyone- something worth remembering next time you feel drained and in need of getting topped up.

Written by Spectrummy Mummy

October 15, 2010 at 2:03 pm

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  1. Julia’s 5 and has been taking Karate for about 7 months. The dojo where we study takes students as young as 4, but Julia wasn’t ready then. Though Coleman would’ve been I think. He started at 6. I started at 35 (hee hee), and LOVE it. I feel strong, and (yep) sexy! In a Lara Croft kinda way. 🙂

    I firmly believe that at the right dojo, the study of Martial Arts is a centering and empowering experience for everyone. 🙂


    October 15, 2010 at 3:26 pm

    • I never did it myself, but wish I had. Is Julia in an adapted class, or does the dojo have any experience with special needs kids? Pudding is just too bouncy and distracted right now. We’ll see how she is in a year. Do you feel any difference with sensory issues yourself?

      When I work out I feel strong and sexy too. It doesn’t really have anything to do with my physical appearance. Definitely going to get back to exercising when I get well. 🙂


      October 15, 2010 at 7:11 pm

      • Both kids are in a regular class. The dojo doesn’t offer adapted classes per se. It’s really astounding to me, because even though Sensei doesn’t have any kind of degree in working with kids or kids with special needs, he’s phenomenal at it. We have kids with Cerebral Palsy, MS, GAD, ASD (on all levels of the spectrum), and SPD. He’s just great a getting the kids to work hard and do their best, whatever that looks like. I think we’re really fortunate to have found this place.

        I don’t feel any difference with sensory issues per se, but for whatever reason, I’m VERY out of sorts if I miss a class.

        You get well soon!


        October 16, 2010 at 6:06 pm

  2. I hope you have a wonderful time out – you both deserve it. And you deserve to take care of yourself. It shows your kids that you are a person, not just there for them, and you’re modeling something so important for your daughter. Awesome.


    October 15, 2010 at 7:25 pm

  3. A date! Good for you guys! Glad you got some time to spend with all your favorite people (including yourself!)


    October 15, 2010 at 8:15 pm

  4. Glad you are getting a much-needed recharge (and maintenance check-up). Enjoy date night y’all. Yay – I made the blog 🙂


    October 15, 2010 at 9:24 pm

  5. Awesome!
    SO glad to see that you are looking after yourself!


    October 18, 2010 at 12:25 am

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