Spectrummy Mummy

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The Mama Bear

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Cubby enjoying a mama bear hug

Remember a while ago when I had a sleep-related epiphany?  You don’t?  Well then go back here and catch up.  My challenge was to tame the monster of sleep with my very own pheromones.  So how did I succeed?

Well, I began by finding a nice soft cotton blanket to sleep on, and kept it in my bed for a week..  I then transferred it to Cubby’s bed and…..it kind of worked.  It worked for a couple of days, but it soon hit a few snags.  It would get crumpled up and lost in the bed.  Or worse, it got crumpled up and was uncomfortable underneath him.  Then somebody told me that I needed to sleep on it for 3 weeks anyway, so that was that.  Back to the beginning.

Next I slept on it for 3 weeks, and it worked better.  He napped and slept for longer.  Then, disaster.  When I washed his sheets his blanket got caught up in the laundry and washed away all trace of me.  We still had the problem of the blanket scuttling out of place anyway.  We still had to deal with putting him back to sleep when he woke up.  It needed a rethink.

One day he was playing in Pudding’s room (he is such a little brother) when he appeared to take a shine to one of her bears.  He carried it into his room, and I let him keep it because the bear isn’t Ernie, Upsy-Daisy, or Sleeping Beauty, so who cares?  Not Pudding.  It was a comical sight watching him carry the bear, which is slightly bigger than he is.  That is when it occurred to me that the bear would be big enough to wear, say, my nightgown.  Oh yes.  So we dressed her up, and called her Mama Bear.

Mama Bear doesn’t wiggle around or get lost in bed.  This Mama Bear is just right.  And if her scent starts to run out, I can switch with more night wear.  Easy-peasy.  It works for Cubby.  We are seeing bountiful nights of sleep and unprecedented 2 hour naps.  He napped so long when I was ill that I managed to take one too.  Rest my body was craving.  It is a no-tech, no-cost, no-hassle solution.  Hopefully it will be useful to somebody else out there.

You must be thinking that I would be all bright-eyed and bushy-tailed after all the sleep I’m getting, but sadly no.  We’re still fine tuning Pudding’s nighttime needs.  In her case, we can’t use the Mama Bear approach as she will only sleep with Ernie, and he has his own clothes.  I think she has outgrown the weight of her weighted blanket, which might be part of it, and there might be a behavioral component too.  She came into our bed when she was sick at the weekend, and has tried to every night since.  Now she no longer gets out of bed in the night, but we hear her talking, and we’re back to VERY early rising.

I’ll let you when we work out a solution for her.  I’m sure that sooner or later we will.  After all, necessity is the mother of invention, and sleep is definitely a necessity.  Particularly for this Mama Bear.

Written by Spectrummy Mummy

February 7, 2011 at 7:53 am

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  1. I love it that he found a way to have you near him. You’re right, wouldn’t work with my guy – who goes by more than smell – he can feel in his sleep. For real.

    Brenda (mamabegood)

    February 7, 2011 at 8:29 am

    • I believe it. Pudding’s sleep requirements are a multi-faceted puzzle that we keep working on. One down, one to go though!

      Spectrummy Mummy

      February 7, 2011 at 4:27 pm

  2. Well done! That’s a great solution. I’m so glad you got that work that out. Good job!


    February 7, 2011 at 9:00 am

  3. I love this too. And I love how in tune you are to his needs and what works.


    February 7, 2011 at 11:29 am

  4. Maybe Ernie needs a sleep outfit too – perhaps one of those baby nightgowns that could be put on over his clothes. Or a special night blanket for Ernie, or Upsy Daisy, or whoever is the favorite friend.


    February 7, 2011 at 11:45 am

    • I think that scent isn’t the issue with Pudding, as she is quite under-responsive to smell. I could be wrong, though, it does happen from time to time ;-).
      Ernie is a little too small for my clothes, but I could try a blanket for him- great idea! Or I’ve considered sleeping on her pillow case for a while. We’ll see how she goes now that she is over her illness.

      Spectrummy Mummy

      February 7, 2011 at 4:33 pm

  5. You are so clever with your Mama Bear. It’s hard when so many things just take lots of time to work out – it’s nice when something can be a quick, simple fix.:)


    February 9, 2011 at 12:01 pm

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