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Spectrummy Mummy to ‘I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers’: #AutismPositivity2012

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Dear “I wish I didn’t have Asperger’s”,

As I’m sitting here wondering what to write to you, I can’t help but smile at the contrast with my own Aspie.  Pudding is just five, and she is twirling in front of a mirror saying, “two Puddings.”  In her mind, the only thing better than Pudding, is there being more than one of her.  How right she is.

I wonder if things will change, if she will change.  If she views the many ways she is unique as a burden, rather than a blessing.  If there will ever be a time she types, “I wish I didn’t have Aspergers” into a search engine, just like you did.  If she does, I’ll feel like I lost.

I’ll feel like I lost my chance to show her all the many ways the world is a better place because she is who she is.

I’m not diagnosed with Asperger’s.  I’ve never experienced the many ways your life is profoundly more difficult than mine.  But others have.  They’ve experienced a lifetime of misunderstanding, ridicule, humiliation, and even abuse, and have taken it upon themselves to change things.  Because they know they don’t need to change, but the world does.

There have been some victories- efforts that have resulted in greater understanding, support and inclusion.  But there is a way to go.  Advocates and their allies are pressing on for greater awareness of alternative communication methods, sensory processing differences, the need for improved housing, education and support for autistic individuals throughout the lifespan.

You have to know that you are worth these efforts.  You have to know that the world is changing because of an incredible community that you are part of, because you have Asperger’s.  You are not alone.

The next time someone googles “I wish I didn’t have Asperger’s”, they’re going to find a whole community of support waiting for them.  Because of you.

The only thing better than you, is more than one of you.  Just ask my girl.


For the last day of Autism Awareness Month, I’m taking part in the Autism Positivity Day Flash Blog event.  This Autism Positivity Flash Blog Event is the brainchild of Thinking About Perspectives, a group of bloggers committed to increasing autism awareness and acceptance via open and respectful dialogue.  You can find out more by clicking >here<.  

Please like, retweet, email, and generally share this amazing effort to raise awareness about the supportive and encouraging side of our community.

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  1. Awesome post….

    The Bright Side of Life

    April 30, 2012 at 9:51 am

  2. Wonderful post. Love and hugs. xx 🙂


    April 30, 2012 at 11:49 am

  3. I think it’s instinctual to wish that our children (and other people’s) could love themselves and see themselves as we do. But it sounds like it’s not okay with you for this person to wish they didn’t have Asperger’s.


    April 30, 2012 at 1:15 pm

  4. Perfect. Just like Pudding.


    April 30, 2012 at 1:15 pm

  5. This post is beautiful!


    April 30, 2012 at 2:45 pm

  6. […] Spectrummy Mummy to ‘I Wish I Didn’t Have Aspergers’: #AutismPositivity2012 (spectrummymummy.com) […]

  7. Go Pudding! I wish I could introduce her to my son, they could have a discussion about their respective awesomeness. I love it!

    outrunning the storm

    April 30, 2012 at 7:40 pm

  8. What an encouraging and loving post. It’s not that easy to find the words when our worlds are not necessarily the same. We both have tried to reach out in our ways. I just hope our intentions are understood in the open and loving way they are offered. xoxo


    April 30, 2012 at 10:21 pm

  9. I love Pudding!


    May 2, 2012 at 7:27 pm

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