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A Very Pudding Party

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I was so excited that our December baby was finally going to have a summer party.  Those four years in the Northern hemisphere meant Pudding’s parties were always victims of the weather.  From

The cake was amazing- so glad I didn't make my own this time.

heavy rains to snow, it had always been a problem. Pudding doesn’t like to be indoors.  She is cabin feverish at the best of times, but add a party with all those people and change of routines, with no escape, and it is sensory overload waiting to happen.  I know what you’re thinking- skip the party, but there lies the problem- Pudding likes parties.  I know that this may change as she gets older, but my girl has been talking about her party since August, so I was determined to make it special for her.

Baking cookies before the party

This year, instead of allowing dysfunction of the senses to rule the party, I decided to make the party sensational, and give my girl all the delicious input she needs to keep her senses on an even keel.

So I was glad to be here in South Africa; my winter-born baby could be the summer girl she is at heart.  I planned an outdoor sensory feast, with Pudding as the gourmet.  We’d set up the bouncy castle, put out the trampoline, steer kids over to the swings and sand table, and have a big tub of tactile goo to play in.  Imagine then, my dismay when I woke up and found the weather site predicted storms the whole day through.  Ever hopeful, I checked 5 more sites, and the news was no better.

I racked my brains to come up with indoor sensory-based activities instead.  We put the bouncy castle on the patio area where it would be protected from the elements.  I found some Hello Kitty dough for tactile and proprioceptive play, together with real dough so Pudding could help me to make cookies before we got started.  She declined her weighted compression vest as it covered up her new Hello Kitty dress.  Still, her senses were in check, and the hardest part for her was waiting for the party to get started.  I requested her help with setting up the tables, a task she delighted in.

I was waiting for the sky to turn ominously dark, but it never happened.  The weather disaster never took place, and all those meteorologists were

Pudding balked at the blindfold, of course.

wrong.  However, it being Pudding’s party, there had to be some kind of disaster.  This year it was poor Spectrummy Daddy, who was suddenly hit by a nasty stomach virus and was out for the rest of the day.  In spite of running around in a frenzy, I managed to check in with Pudding from time to time.  We had our first 20 minutes or so where Pudding did her best to hide, and guests did their best to interact with her.  I promised that she would warm up once she was left alone, and warm up she did.  She was amazing!

Decorating cookies in the shape of cats and fives was a big hit.

The only time she dug her heels in was at the suggestion of wearing a blindfold for the game of stick the bow on Hello Kitty.  She wasn’t going to entertain such nonsense as even closing her eyes- how would she get the bow in the right place if she couldn’t see?!  She much preferred the cookie decorating activity, which was a hit with the other kids too. And who doesn’t enjoy eating their own handiwork?

In fact, the sensory elements to the party were by far the most enjoyed by all the kids taking part, and gave Pudding a chance to interact with others on her terms.  There was enough going on for her to wander from activity to activity without interruption.  So in the end, no storms, no meltdowns, just a happy little 5 year-old getting the party that she needs.

It was more than wonderful, it was sensational.  Just like our girl.

Written by Spectrummy Mummy

December 8, 2011 at 10:58 am