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Wordless Wednesday 05 Feb 2014

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February 5, 2014 at 7:08 am

Stepping into the limelight

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Thursday was Pudding’s last day of preschool for the summer, and Graduation Day for two of her classmates.  At 3, Pudding has another two years of preschool before she will start Kindergarten, though we’ll probably move next year.  She’ll be back in the same classroom in less than a month.  So really, this was a day about the other children who were leaving the class.  Little ones who had worked so hard, come so far, and deserved their moment to shine.  Not, I repeat, not a day about Pudding.

The graduating children of both Pudding’s class and the other PAC in her school were seated at the front with their teachers, wearing mortar boards they’d made in class.  They all looked so adorable.  The teacher read a story, and the kids performed a couple of songs.  While all this was happening, Cubby, Pudding and the other children were playing in a corner of the room.  I was seated a few feet away, ready to grab Cubby should he try to leave the classroom. Not that he had much interest in doing so, for here were cars and trucks galore to play with, and he was in his element.  Still, you never know…

You never know that it will be your quick-as-a-flash girl who will decide to bolt to the front “stage” and sing along to ‘Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star’!  She doesn’t even particularly like the song, nor have I ever seen her perform the actions to it, but it seems I have a natural-born performer when there is a captive audience.  She had no business being up there at all, this newcomer, stealing the thunder from her friends.  Of course, everyone found it funny, it is hard to take offense at a spectrummy 3 year-old.  All eyes were on her, and she lapped it up!  She had her little moment in the limelight, then was quickly grabbed by Ms. S, so the parents of the graduates could film their kids.

When we first got Pudding’s diagnosis, I devoured everything I could read about Asperger’s Syndrome.  As many children aren’t diagnosed so early in life, there isn’t much information about very young children with Asperger’s.  As there are 4 boys diagnosed for every 1 girl, there is even less information about young girls.  I found some though.  I learned that these girls tend to be extremely shy, and will hide on the edge of a crowd, desperate not to to attract attention.  They tend to be smart and love reading.  Their interests are usually the same as their typically developing peers, such as loving horses, fairies, princesses, they just are a bit more intense about it.  So: shy, bookish, horse-loving…it sounded just like me as a child, but not like Pudding (apart from the princesses bit, of course).

Perhaps Pudding will change as she gets older, but for right now, she is more attention-seeking than shy.  Sure, she gets anxious in conversation with unfamiliar people, but that is because their language is so hard for her to process and respond accordingly.  But she is not shy.  The 3 year-old me would never have got up on front of a room full of people, but she shined!  Even now, I’m uncomfortable in a room of strangers, I hate public-speaking.  Where I was calm and quiet as a child, she is loud and dramatic. She is intense.

I had a funny feeling as I watched her that it won’t be the last time I see that kid on stage.  She loved stepping into the limelight, I have a feeling she won’t want to step back out.

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